GUIDELINES FOR HOSTING A PARTY

1.  A parent should be at home and visible during the party.  Many parties take place when parents are away from home.

• A parent can bring in snacks and non-alcoholic beverages. Not only will your presence help keep the party running smoothly, but it will also give you an opportunity to meet your teen’s friends.

• Invite other parents to help if your party is large.
  
  

2.  Do not offer alcohol to guests under the age of 21 or allow guests to use drugs in your home.  You may be brought to court on criminal charges and/or have to pay monetary damages in a civil lawsuit if you furnish alcohol or other drugs to minors.

• Be alert to the signs of alcohol or other drug use by teens.
• Guests who try to bring in alcohol or other drugs or who otherwise refuse to cooperate with your expectations should be asked to leave.
• Notify the parents of any teen who arrives at the party drunk or under the influence of any drug to ensure the teen’s safe transportation home.  DO NOT LET ANYONE DRIVE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL OR OTHER DRUGS.
  
  

3.  Set ground rules with your teen before the party.

• This will give you both a good opportunity to express feelings and concerns.

• Let your teen know what you expect.
  
  

4.  Plan to have plenty of food and non-alcoholic beverages on hand.

5.  Plan activities for the party with your teen prior to the party.

6.  Do not allow any guest who leaves the party to return.

• This will discourage teens from leaving the party to drink or use drugs elsewhere and then return to the party.
  

7.  Limit party attendance and times.

• Know who is expected to attend.  It is important to discourage crashers.

• Avoid open-house parties.  It is difficult for parents and teens to keep control over this kind of party.

• Set time limits that enable teens to be home by the legal curfew.
  

8.  Notify the police when planning a large party.

• This will help the police to protect you, your guests and your neighbors.

• Discuss with the police an agreeable plan for guest parking. 

9.  Notify your neighbors that there will be a party.

10.  Other Ideas:

• Get to know your children’s friends and their parents.  Keep in touch with them during your children’s teen years.

• Many parties occur spontaneously.  Parents and teenagers should understand beforehand that the above guidelines are in effect at ALL parties.  

• If, despite your precautions, things get out of hand, do not hesitate to call your local police department for help.

• Start a Parent Connection Agreement at your school.